Your only young once

Somewhere along the path of achievement we lose our sense of wonder. The kind of wonder we had when we were five and we discovered that fire was hot, that fire can burn you. We knew it was dangerous but we still played with it because our curiosity got the best of us. We took risk passing our fingers through the flame and only then did we discover that only the tip of the flame burns. When we were young we were not reluctant to take risk, we were not afraid to fail. I guess somewhere along the way we become paralyzed at the thought of not being successful. I say we go off of the charted territory, take a chance and make a leap. You only have one chance at happiness and success, if you stay safe then you potential will remain safe, but if you aim high your potential will aim even higher. J.K. Rowling has an interesting quote: "It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all-in which case, you fail by default." I don't know about anyone else, but when i'm older i don't want to regret not going forward in my potential. I would rather fail trying to accomplish something than to fail by default because i was too afraid to make a move. So i guess my message to the youth and anyone reading this is follow your dreams, though you may (more likely than not) fail at least you failed trying instead of failing by default. Reach for the heavens and take that leap and most importantly trust in God for the outcome. 

Mid life crisis? Talk about quarter life crisis

OK, i'm not exactly 25 but the point is, people assume that older people have it tougher with work, families and bills. Not saying that they don't have their challenges but i can vouch for the 20-something year old's. Older people tend to already be settled in to their lives and so they can afford to have a mid life crisis and splurge on that luxury car or get that head to toe makeover. When you are in your early 20's you can't afford to have a crisis, your life depends on every single educational, financial and personal decision you make. I'm not even 20 yet and i already have elevated blood pressure due to stress. Especially growing up in the NYC public school system, there isn't many "helpful" resources out there. The resources that are available tell you either to go in to something with guaranteed employment like nursing, engineering and the other sciences. Those fields have some of the best jobs in the world but they aren't for everybody. Also it really annoys me that these places will go on to the internet and print the same information you could have gotten on your own at the library. I would like to see more programs that help students realize their talents and aspirations. Then from there you can start looking in to possible educational programs to achieve your goals. There is definitely a lack of acknowledgement to the stress our generation faces when it comes to employment and a stable future. Besides no matter what you are looking to go in to, your career will always feel like a job if you aren't happy with what you're doing.

Starting over takes years

Starting over takes years guys, i just realized this. I had just made the decision to go natural about a year ago and i'm nine months post big chop, which is cutting off all your permed hair in order to have your natural hair. I have seven inches in the front (whoop whoop !) and five in the back. That's only because the lady i went to cut my hair that way (rolls eyes) but anyway i'm making progress. Today I've decided to lose about 15-20 pounds. I joined this new site called MyFitnessPal and so far it is a great community of people looking to better themselves. I just finished a FREE kickboxing session through Mag Rack, which is free through cablevision. I was drenched in sweat but i was impressed because the program was free but helpful. I look forward to wearing tank tops and shorts this summer. I just have to keep my eye on the goal. This change also carries over in to my personal life, for as long as i can remember i have always been in a relationship, this is the first time I've been single for anymore than 2 months. It is definitely new and taking some getting use to but i know it is the best for me. I have my lonely moments where i just want a man's arms around my waist telling me everything is going to be OK, but then i have my liberated moments where i feel free and can tackle anything. I know becoming the woman i want to be will take years but i'm willing to take invest the time and take the initiative in becoming this woman, and from the looks of it she is going to be strong, wonderful and beautiful.